Has anyone ever told you, you were full of hot air? If so, you are not alone. I think this post will help you understand why our words should not be hot air but rather backed up by the foundation of our actions.
I don’t think there is ever an instance where one person is the team, or where one person is responsible for the success or failure of the team. Whether at work or within the family, I believe it always involves a team effort.
Email and texting should never be a substitute for face to face communication or phone conversation. However, if crafted properly, these can be useful in reinforcing your ideas and increasing your influence.
Genuine integrity is the foundation of a person’s credibility. Credibility creates confidence, and that confidence allows influence.
According to Steven Covey, “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that upholds all relationships”. Trust is crucial in the leadership process. In fact, trust is required for effective leadership.
Listening, a task I struggle at. As a coach, trainer and speaker, I tend to be a problem solver. In fact, I think I’m so good, I’ll finish your sentence or thought for you. Why should you waste valuable oxygen.
As a leader, one of the most frustrating things is to have someone on my team not take the initiative to make things happen. Instead they sit back and wait for direction, or constantly need my approval that their path or ideas are right.
It amazes me how many people do not actively network. Even more surprising is the limited networking that many students do. For instance, using LinkedIn. If LinkedIn had been around when I was a student, there is no telling where my career would have gone. In my discussions with professionals, there seems to be common excuses for not networking.
Effectively dealing with professional and personal difficulties creates influence.
John C. Maxwell said; “People naturally see themselves in the light of their intentions, but they measure others according to their actions.” Man that was me. I use to avoid conflict all cost. Hmmmm, that’s probably not entirely true. I think it would be more accurate to say, that I use to instigate conflict when I could. Overall, I HATE CONFLICT! Can’t we all just get along?
I recently published a blog titled, “8 Personal Habits That Will Ensure A Good First Impression.” Number 8 on that list was “Initiate Relevant Small Talk”. I discuss the need for relevant small talk and how it can create a connection and lead to building a relationship. Effective small talk can provide clues in providing a deeper understanding of that person.
Making a good impression is simply using common sense and being intuitively aware of the situation you are in. Develop these 8 habits and use them next time you meet someone for the first time. It could be a life-changing event.