Dad, Father, Pops are all the words used to described my Dad and myself. As I sit in my “creative space” (office) on this Father’s Day, I thought I would share my thoughts on what a “Dad” looks like.
Here they are:
- Unconditional Love – As a dad, I realized early on in my daughter’s life the need for unconditional love. Loving our children is a forever endeavor. It is not something we bounce around based on what they do or say. Dads must hold on tightly, even when the going gets tough. We must love our children at their very best and their lowest low. We must love regardless of situations and circumstances. Our unconditional love will be an example that our children can build their lives upon with their families and those they come in contact with. After all, we experience unconditional love through our Heavenly Father, Psalm 36:5 -7 Your love, O LORD, reaches to the heavens, your faithfulness to the skies.
- Encouragement – A dad must be a great encourager. I still reflect back on my Dad’s encouragement while I was in the batter’s box, entering the work force, considering marriage and family and going back to college. I loved encouraging my daughter throughout her life. I love it even more now that she is married and has given me a grand daughter. My goal is to provide sincere encouragement in all things of life through biblical principles. I believe sincere encouragement gives hope. Hope and encouragement go hand in hand. There is no situation or circumstance that one can’t endure when encouragement and hope are sought from the Word of God. Psalm 55:22, Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.
- Relationship – A dad’s relationship with his children is one of the most defining attributes of a child’s character. That relationship plays a very critical part of a child’s emotional well-being. A dad who is affectionate, encouraging and involved in a child’s life creates a sense of well-being, good self-esteem, and a strong sense of character. I believe our relationship with our children creates a sense of love, trust and mutual respect. When a child feels secure, loved and cherished, they will reciprocate the same to others. “The father of a righteous child has great joy; a man who fathers a wise son rejoices in him.” — Proverbs 23:24
- Influence – A dad has great influence on their children. One must understand; however, the influence can be both good and bad. As a dad, my desire was and is to always have a positive influence on my daughter. My dad had an influence on me in may areas and ways. In fact his influence has gently driven my life and indirectly determined who I am and what I believe. Proverbs 113:30 says,“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”
- Legacy – We will all leave something for our children. The question is what is it? A legacy isn’t something which we have no control over, but rather, we can choose the way in which our influence will remain once we’re gone. Like the shadow our character casts as we walk down the sidewalk, so too will our legacy follow us when we are gone. The great basketball coach, John Wooden said, “There is a choice you make in everything you do. So keep in mind that in the end, the choice you make, makes you.” My constant prayer is that my choices would lead to a legacy of a deep love for the Word and things of God and the attributes of a solid, strong character. Deuteronomy 12:28 says, “careful to obey all these words that I command you, that it may go well with you and with your children after you forever, when you do what is good and right in the sight of the Lord your God.”
I thank the Lord every day for allowing me to be a dad. I also thank him for my dad. At the age of 82, I still listen to his words and heed his Godly wisdom. I see a man who is still working to show unconditional love, working to build a relationship with his children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. He continues to encourage me in everything and influence in the background. Above all, I see a man that is striving to leave a legacy of love, character and a devotion to the things of God.
This is my prayer, that I may follow in his footsteps and be half the man he is.
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY AND GOD BLESS YOU ALL!